I bought this for my wife to try and try it she did (with me). First, I'm definitely glad I purchased a harness to go with it, because without it, my wife would have gotten too tired to keep it in place and use it on its own. Second, she did not enjoy the vibrator as the vibrations were too strong for her personal tastes and the vibrator that came with it only has one speed. Lastly, while I enjoyed it (upon getting used to it) she did not - not even a little. Keep in mind that while my wife does enjoy more traditional sexual positions and has orgasms that way, this was just not her thing and didn’t even “turn her on” at all. Hopefully, you and your partner will have greater success with it. I deducted 2 stars for the harness requirement and for not giving my wife any pleasure (not even a little). UPDATE 1/2/2019: So, since my wife didn’t get any enjoyment out of this and because she thought it was just plain weird, I hadn’t asked her to use it with me again for quite a while. However, for New Year’s Eve I asked her to use it with me again. She declined that night (because I had been drinking) but decided to give it a go the following day, after I woke up. As usual, this device did nothing for her, but I can definitely say that it worked for me. If I could give it 5 stars for my own pleasure and 1 star for my wife, I would. Although we haven’t used this device for a while, we have still tried other things that have hit the Prostate for me. I have heard of the seemingly, mythical P-Spot Orgasm for men, and I think I finally achieved one with this device on New Year’s Day, which is why I felt compelled to update this review. For anyone that is wondering, this is how we did it: I lay on my back, as close to the edge of the bed as I could get. My wife stood at the edge of the bed and entered me with the device from that position. NOTE: Remember to use lots of water based lube! Also, take it slow, ‘cause the device is a bit on the large side and can hurt at first until you get used to it. Once inside, my wife began to pump the device all the way in. However, what we realized was that deeper is not better (not for me anyway). So once we realized that, she stopped trying to put it all the way in and shortened her thrusts. The natural shape of the head of the device – and this is key – was then stimulating the prostate perfectly, just like a finger, but bigger. And when I say perfectly, I really mean PERFECTLY. Once we got a good rhythm going, and I felt like I was close to peaking, I asked her to stroke my manhood in conjunction with her thrusts and that pushed me over the edge in a way that left me feeling like I just had achieved some sort of sexual/spiritual co-mingling nirvana. I don’t know how else to describe it, but it was fantastic and amazing! So for me, this device is definitely 5 stars. I just wish there was a way to make it enjoyable for my wife, too. Knowing what we know now, I may have to invest into a different harness that allows for a different vibrator that is more adjustable with the vibration pattern, and see if that does anything for her. It’s either that, or I will just have to accept that using this is for me (and me only) and try not to ask my wife to use it too often, since it doesn’t do anything for her. Anyway, I’m sure we’ll figure something out. Best of luck to anyone who gives this a try. If you can find that special spot and stimulate it properly, trust me, you won’t regret it!